Category / Postmodern Love
Orbiting Is the New Ghosting and It’s Probably Happening to You
“Ghosting” may have been added to Urban Dictionary in 2006, but in theory, people ghosted long before texting: by not calling back, not showing up to a date, not responding to a…
by Man Repeller
Being Passive Aggressive Is My Worst Relationship Habit
T he first time I realized I wasn’t a perfect girlfriend was when my boyfriend and I were just months into dating. I was mad at him for asking if we could…
by Man Repeller
The Problem With Assuming Men Are Emotionally Inept
A friend of mine recently confessed that her boyfriend sucks at comforting her. When she confides in him about a stressful day or an anxious feeling, he says, with a sympathetic tenderness,…
by Man Repeller
8 Women on Why They Decided to Propose
M y roommate got engaged a few weeks ago, and though I’ve heard the story of how it happened a few times now, I would gladly listen to it again and again.…
by Man Repeller
The Real Reason I Didn’t Take My Husband’s Last Name
“Are you ever going to change your last name?” is a question I’m asked nearly every time I visit family. It’s inevitable, like the question of how many kids I will produce…
by Man Repeller
How to “Define the Relationship” in No Uncertain Terms
Dear Guy I’ve Been Sleeping, Texting and Having Occasional Meals With, This letter confirms the arrangement between yourself (the “Heretofore Hookup”) and me (“Me” or “I”), related to your contribution(s) to The…
by Man Repeller
Is it Wrong to Want to Change Your Partner?
Years ago, I got into a debate with a friend about whether my desire to change my boyfriend made me a shitty person. I argued that it didn’t. She implied, in so…
by Man Repeller
A Love Story I Need Everyone to Read Immediately
Céline Semaan and Colin Vernon have the type of love story that will keep your hands pressed to your face and your heart in your throat in anticipation of the outcome —…
by Man Repeller
Two Common Myths About Sexual Consent
In the long history of feminism and anti-sexual-assault activism, mantras like “No means no” and, later, “Yes means yes” have shaped the way we talk about consent. But as more and more…
by Man Repeller
Is “Love at First Sight” a Bunch of B.S.?
I always balked at the concept of “love at first sight” when it was nauseatingly perpetuated in the songs and movies I enjoyed growing up. I was much too rational to believe…
by Man Repeller